Since Austin was born last month, I’ve been really keen to take part in the sibling project. It’s a linky started by Dear Beautiful a challenge to photograph your children together once a month. I thought this would be a lovely way to document Hayden’s and Austins developing relationship.
Suddenly becoming a big brother and having a sibling has been a big adjustment for Hayden. I think going from being the only child to suddenly having a sibling and having to share the attention of your parents is a really big ask. Especially when your only 16 months old and don’t really understand.
On the whole, Hayden seems really keen on Austin. He smiles at him in the morning, and likes to give him cuddles and kisses regularly! It’s really sweet to see.
In the last couple of weeks though, he has gotten jealous at times and lashed out by grabbing Austins face or smacking his head. It’s really difficult, we don’t want Austin to get hurt obviously but don’t want to discourage Hayden from bonding and interacting with his little brother. When he has lashed out we have told him that he’s hurt Austin, and he needs to be gentle. It’s Difficult to know if he is intentionally trying to hurt him or just interested. Also difficult to know how much he understands when we explain he’s hurting Austin. I have found it quite upsetting at times. Will be easier once Austins a bit bigger and more robust. Hopefully!
Hayden struggles more when Mike is holding Austin than with me, perhaps because he is used to the fact that I hold/feed Austin a lot of the time.
On the positive side Hayden Always smiles when he sees Austin and points. He Tries to gave him his special fox teddy and his dummy at times. Hayden Looks concerned when Austins crying lots in the car.
I can’t wait to see how their relationship develops over the next few months as Austin becomes more alert and interactive, and hope that they will have lots of fun playing together as Austin gets older.