First week alone with toddler and baby…
Saying I survived may seem a bit dramatic, and of course it is really. Perhaps ‘I’m still sane!’ (for now) would have been more of an accurate description.
Up until last week, because of having had a C-section and very supportive family, I had not looked after both children on my own for more than a few hours.
As lovely and much needed as it was to have that support, I knew it was time for me to go it alone. I knew it was going to be hard, really hard, but felt I was just putting off the inevitable. That I would only learn to cope with both of them when I had no choice but to.
How it went…
Firstly its a very different ball game having the two. When I had Hayden there was many a day we just chilled out on the sofa watching a whole series on Netflix and napping together! Can’t believe I ever thought it was hard really! (Hayden was a pretty chilled out baby so I was lucky I know!)
But now it’s oh so different. I find if Hayden doesn’t get out and run off some energy he goes a bit bat shit crazy and is a nightmare. This in turn causes mummy to also lose her Shit! So even though it’s a bit of a mammoth task getting all of us ready and out the door no later than 10, it’s in everyone’s interests that we do!
Long gone are the days of meeting friends for coffee and browsing the shops whilst the newborn sleeps soundly in the pram waking for the occasional feed! Now going out normally involves a park or soft play, where its ok for you toddler to run or crawl around and squeal like a banshee and no one bats an eyelid because they are dealing with their own Tasmanian devil!
Getting out and about…
It’s the logistics of having two that’s tricky, things like who do I put in the car first?, and take out first?, which one can wait and which can’t? especially for us, because we have no driveway living in a terrace house by quiet a busy road. I have to say though thank god Hayden is walking now so I don’t have to carry both of them at the same time (well generally not)
This week we managed to go to the park, toddler group, and a museum so doing pretty well I think! I’ve become a pro at putting together the double Icandy peach pram in various configurations.
I think I’ve been pretty fortunate though this first week. In that, my some miracle Austin has been happy to be on his mat when I needed to feed or change Hayden. So I haven’t had too many times where they are both crying and/or vying for my attention.
So I did cry in the park this week. Austin wasn’t happy in the pram and Hayden wanted to go in the swings. so there I was desperately faffing trying to get a screaming Austin in the carrier whilst Hayden was tugging at my top crying and pleading for me too! I felt like my heart was being torn in two. I tried explaining this to mike but he just looked at me like I had finally lost it! Maybe I had, objectively I know that of course sometimes one of them will have to wait and that it wont do them any harm. But at such a young age they can’t understand. All they see is mummy choosing another baby/child over them! does this make sense? or have I gone crazy?
It has been a difficult week and we’ve all cried at times. But even from just one week we have all started to adapt and find some sort of rhythm. I think it will get easier as Hayden gets more used to Austin and having to wait sometimes. Easier also as Austin becomes more interactive and playing. Despite being hard I have also had a lovely week in many ways and really enjoyed being with my boys! (mostly when they are both sleeping! ha ha!).